What is in a collar

When it comes to the D/s lifestyle, it's a lot like a religion. So many ideas and points of view. And certainly not all are going to agree. But to me one thing is universal for submissives. A submissive wants, needs, and craves a Dominant that they trust completely. Because with that trust a submissive will give the one thing they most crave to give. Themselves. Not just a small part of themselves. All. So if there was one thing I would want to say to the Dominant world: No matter what view you take on running Your House, by earning your submissives undying trust you will earn their undying loyalty. And that bond is greater than any chain or lock ever made.

(Sarrah Darkfold, SL collard Oct. 4, 2009 by Master Mikhail Borgin. Joined to Master in Real Life Jan. 30, 2010)

I know this woman, because she helps run a training facility to better educate people in BDSM. I truly believe that these words are wise. Anyone can snap a collar around a girls/boys neck and claim that they are owned by them. With this collar, anyone can come in and take that collar off, and put their own there, and the girl must obey. This is true in a Gorean world. However what changes. If you can earn the trust of your girl/boy, this will bring forth that undying devotion. With the devotion, comes love. You could take your collar off a girl that loved you, and she would still be yours, following your orders and commands.

Someone could come and steal this girl from you, and her heart would remain. She would only be a dutiful girl to the new man, but she would always be looking out a window, gazing to the thassa, awaiting the arrival of her one true Master. Surely the new Master could try his hardest to make her love him, and with that she would give him higher respect. It would only be the words of her true Master saying he was not coming, or no longer wanted him that would change her.

With time a heart can change, but it never forgets. It constantly searches for the one that it loves, yearns for, and craves. The heart can and will adapt, letting a newer love come forth, but it truly beats for only one person. That bond is unbreakable, unwaivering and always searching for its holder. That love, that bond is what I crave and search for.