Saturday, September 14, 2013
Friday, August 23, 2013
She's My Chocolate Pie
[8:04:37 PM] Me: OMFG you better come eat your pie before I do..cuz they are
spectacular
[8:04:37 PM] Me: ROFLMAO
[8:04:47 PM] Master: lol
[8:04:57 PM] Master: you've just been craving sugar. lol
[8:05:03 PM] Me: I
seriously am
[8:05:31 PM] Master: Then have it.
[8:05:42 PM] Me: babe
you never get anything sweet or special
[8:05:55 PM] Master: That's not true
[8:06:07 PM] Me: how
is it not true
[8:06:13 PM] Master: I have you
[8:06:18 PM] Me: awwwwwwwwwwwwwww
[8:06:23 PM] Me: I
love you
[8:06:27 PM] Master: I love you too
Of course I would never eat his dessert. I simply like to
tease him, but him saying that made my day and I had to share!!!
My Seduction Style
Plentyoffish Seduction Style
Results
SPECIAL NOTE: Your report is
meant to inform your significant others about how best to woo you. People will
first see a general summary about you and then read a detailed section for each
of the three steps of seduction:
How to Approach Me! → How to
Date Me! → How to Sexually Seduce Me!
Enjoy the report,
contemplate the information and insights it provides and good luck in applying
the results here at the Plenty of Fish community! You can also send test
results to others using your special link at the bottom of this report.
Passion Preludes: The Big
Picture of Me
Fetiphoria is not
necessarily promiscuous or lacks standards, but the overall answer patterns
suggest that Fetiphoria is exceedingly sensitive to the psychological and
physical elements of romance and passion, even to the point they, at times, may
lack impulse control. People like this tend to love life with zeal, often
living in the moment and trying not to let experiences pass them by, with many
having engaged in a wider range of sexual behaviors, sometimes with a number of
different partners. Someone like this is bound to be gregarious and flirtatious
in public, becoming extremely sensual and wildly uninhibited behind closed
doors. In fact, these individuals are amongst the most passionate of people
when the timing is right.
What Makes This Type So
Attractive? Those of high seducability can be absolute elixirs in and of
themselves, with many drawn to this sort for their…
Uninhibited nature. Fun, fun-loving, and
provocative, this type is very adventurous and erotophilic, open to trying new
things, with many "closeted kinks" when it comes to sexual
experimentation.
Lust for the sensual and the act of
seduction. Not to be stigmatized as players necessarily, this sort loves
anything that entertains their intellect, including the sexual, and that
involves pleasure, including the potential for even greater pleasure.
Ability to be fabulous, hopeless flirts.
Whether coy, up for tit for tat discourse, or clever in dishing out the
flattery, this sort is alluring in their ability to be suggestive and fearless
in expressing interest.
Their sensitivity and moodiness. A bit
theatrical at times, and not afraid to express themselves in many ways, this
sort will always keep you entertained, amusing woo'ers who know how to handle
it.
Tips for Tempting This Type:
It can be easy for someone
like Fetiphoria to fall in love. So… Don't get carried away and "dive
in" with them, no matter how hard this is not to do! Many are only open
initially, yet withdraw once someone gets "too close," despite their
desire to be more emotionally involved for the long-term. Do choose your words
and actions wisely. Do what you say and say what you mean.
Fetiphoria may well push
your own boundaries or comfort level. So… Don't engage in anything you may
regret, whether it's too soon, too risqué, or too… Do show tolerance and
maintain a healthy sense of adventure.
Despite conveying otherwise,
this sort can have as many issues with sex and relationships as the next
person. So… Don't assume that this person is free of sex issues or necessarily
sexually empowered. Many can have misguided ideas on what it means to be
sexually liberated. Do be sensitive to any intimacy issues they may be
grappling with.
You may be tempted to be as
impulsive as Fetiphoria can sometimes be. So… Don't give into any manipulation
or even aggressive tactics that this sort can try to employ in getting the
upper hand or having their way. Do fight that urge. Playing a little "hard
to get" and pacing your interactions can actually heighten arousal and
desire.
These individuals love to
flirt – and with just about anyone. Don't assume that Fetiphoria, who may be a
bit neurotic or narcissistic in nature, is 100% into you and only you. Do let
Fetiphoria know what constitutes proper flirting to you and where you need to
draw your boundaries in getting involved with someone.
Many long for monogamous,
long-term relationships. Don't assume that Fetiphoria just cares about physical
pleasure or living in the moment, despite a reputation of becoming bored or
tiring easily, especially once the chase has cooled. Furthermore, don't assume
that many have wracked up a high number of sex partners, if that's your
concern. Plenty of people in this category have been involved in long-term,
often monogamous, relationships where they have established a safe, trusting
space for sexual exploration and sharing. Do talk about each other's
expectations, needs and wants.
Bottom Line: While this type
can be into all sorts of high stimuli, becoming easily aroused, don't assume
that their ability to realize their highest sexual self on a physical level
translates into being able to do that on an emotional or spiritual level in the
boudoir, If this is what you're after you may be disappointed. Rather allow
yourself to be allured, recognizing that much of what they do is based on their
need to be pleased, their desire to be liked and loved, their need to impress,
and a deep-seated vulnerability when it comes to being intimate with another.
Step 1: How to Approach Me!
A person's
"approach" to Fetiphoria lays the foundation for Steps 2 and 3 of
seduction. Three elements help define an overall "approach:"
What kind of flirt you are (Flirting Style)
How you pace your interactions (Pace)
Your dating attitude (Creativity and Sense
of Humor)
Let's explore the elements
of an "approach" that are likely to get Fetiphoria to notice you.
Know My Favorite Flirting
Styles
Online dating involves a
wide range of possible online flirting behaviors. Men and women prefer many of
the same flirting strategies, but those strategies are often weighted slightly
differently between the sexes. The Plenty of Fish Seduction Survey reveals
these hidden trends as well as some new, inside information on how to present
yourself as you're using these flirting tactics. Let the game of seduction
begin.
Women's Top Ten Favorite
Ways to Have Someone Flirt with Them
Talks about things she likes or dislikes,
making comments and showing interest
Displays concern for her, her feelings and
well-being
Shares jokes or amusing anecdotes with her
Compliments her on her screen name,
attitude, personality and appearance
Sends her special/cute email messages
Makes an effort to contact her in some form
most every day
Chat with her when you are both online at
the same time
Discusses seriously the traits she desires
in a partner
Shows her your daring or mischievous side
Emails her greeting cards, gifts, pictures
songs or fun attachments
Flirting Styles that TURN ME
ON
1. Witty (someone who draws
you in with words and quick thinking).
2. Charming (a person who’s
a flatterer and who quickly gets on your good side).
3. Prim and Proper (someone
who’s ultra-chivalrous, shows impeccable dating/courting manners and is
somewhat old-fashioned).
Flirting Styles that TURN ME
OFF
1. Playful and natural
(someone who lets the inner child shine through).
2. Mysterious and vague (a
person who’s a little elusive and seems difficult to pin down).
3. Manipulative (someone who
sends mixed signals and leaves you wondering if they are interested in you or
not – basically a person who is into the power dynamics that come with a
relationship, and who will ultimately have the upper hand, especially in
seducing each other).
Know My Preferred Pace
When it comes to talking to
Fetiphoria about an offline meeting or date, Fetiphoria prefers to have someone
communicate with them via:
telephone
instant messaging
email
Generally speaking,
Fetiphoria prefers communicating with someone online at least two weeks to two
months before meeting them offline. Therefore, allow Fetiphoria ample time to
assess the chemistry and comfort level between you. Individuals like Fetiphoria
tend to think it is important to be cautious before moving a friendship or
potential romantic relationship to the next level. But special people are worth
the wait.
A note of caution from the
relationship experts! Warning signs of online predators or people with abusive
tendencies include someone who:
Makes demeaning or inappropriate remarks.
Provides inconsistent information about
his/her age, appearance, marital status or employment.
Refuses to provide a recent photo or series
of photos.
Refuses to talk on the phone as the
relationship develops.
Insists on seeing (or having) photos of
your children or knowing considerable details about them early in the
relationship.
And whenever meeting someone
offline, note these safety tips!
When you're ready to meet someone in
person, choose a public place such as a café or coffee shop, preferably during
the day.
You may want to keep the first meeting
casual and brief (e.g. an hour).
Take your own car or transportation. Don't
offer to pick up your date or let them pick you up.
Tell a friend or family member about your
plans and where you'll be on your date.
Never bring your children with you when
meeting someone for the first time. And be hesitant about showing photos of
your child as well.
You can have a friend sit at a nearby table
in a coffee shop or café to keep an eye on you, if you would feel more
comfortable.
Carry a cell phone with you on the date for
emergencies.
Never leave your food or drink unattended.
When it's time for the date to end, leave
on your own. Avoid going straight home and drive to the store or another public
place.
Know How to Talk to Me
Communication is important
both to men and women – and it is an underrated aspect of seduction. Knowing
what not to talk about with a particular person can be just as important as
knowing what is fine to talk about. Here are the trends Plenty of Fish's
Seduction Survey identified for women. These will be useful when communicating
with Fetiphoria.
Women's Top Ten Favorite
Conversation Topics
Hopes and aspirations
Hobbies/interests in general
Music
Dreams
Romance
Friends
Travel
Vacations
Movies
Entertainment
Women's Top Ten Least
Favorite Conversation Topics
Politics
Other dates
Past relationships
Science fiction
Religion
Celebrities
Science
Antiques
Money
History
My favorite conversation
topics – in Fetiphoria's own words!
Photography
Food
Travel
My least favorite
conversation topics – in Fetiphoria's own words!
Religion
Politics
Past relationships
Know My Preferred Dating
Attitude
Fetiphoria's answer patterns
suggest there should be a good response to someone whose attitude or
temperament is downright effervescent.
Bottom Line: Show off – even
exude – the side of you that is high energy and even a little wild.
Fetiphoria wants to see your
sense of humor, creativity and intelligence as well as a positive attitude
throughout your words and actions.
Next, Plenty of Fish
presents some customized, probing questions to help you get to break the ice
with this type of person:
"What are your guilty pleasures in
life?"
"What is the oddest thing you have
ever had a dream about?"
"How would you dress up for a fancy
date on the town, a costume party with friends or a role play adventure with a
lover?"
Step 2: How to Date Me!
Building on the
"approach" is the way you handle actual dates. Dates should be fun
for both individuals and allow the couple to begin knowing each other on deeper
level than what is possible with casual online dating. Dating is where you
truly explore and assess the chemistry, friendship and overall compatibility
between you. However, people's dating preferences can vary widely. So, below
are preferences to keep in mind for Fetiphoria!
Know How I Like to Pace a
Date
To Fetiphoria, a first date
should last One to two hours , and the date would ideally be Somewhat planned –
I like to have a general idea of what we'll be doing.
Know My Favorite Dating
Activities
Dinner is the classic date –
and for good reason. It allows two people to focus on each other in a romantic environment,
while satiating their palate and providing the opportunity to suggest ways two
people can be mutually pleasured later. But, men and women both agree that some
spots are more appropriate than others. The new Plenty of Fish Seduction Survey
discovered what places are hot or not. The list below shows the top ten
choices. Restaurants at the top part of the list are rated the most favorable,
whereas those at the bottom are rated less favorable. Notice how those that are
least preferred may reflect lower levels of romance to some people. Keep that
in mind if you take Fetiphoria to dinner!
Top Ten Restaurant Types for
a Date
Casual dinner
Pub
Retro bar with live music
French cuisine
Ethnic
Pizza place
Western
Salad bar
Sushi bar
Family dinner
Of course, there are a host
of dating activities besides the classic dinner and a movie. The Plenty of Fish
Seduction Survey found which date picks for women are the best and the worst:
Women's Top Ten Date Picks
Restaurant
Taking a romantic walk
Park
Coffee shop
Live music
Comedy club
Zoo
Bowling or playing pool
Amusement park
Movies
Women's Top Ten Least
Favorite Date Picks
High school reunion, work party or wedding
Antique show
Shopping
Mixer
House party
Cultural event (opera, ballet, etc)
Dance club
Sports activity
Sports event
Stay in and rent a movie
Favorite dating activities –
in Fetiphoria's own words!
Sailing
Horse
Back Riding
Riding Quads
Least favorite dating
activities – in Fetiphoria's own words!
Smoking bar
Rodeos
Nascar events
Know My Expectations for
Ending a Date
Assuming the first date goes
well, Fetiphoria may take it as far as a kiss goodbye on the lips – no tongue.
That would be quite a compliment as is, so be satisfied if it happens.
Dating Dos and Don'ts!
The Plenty of Fish Seduction
Survey presented respondents with wide assortment of factors that can totally
turn somebody on – as well as off. Both men and women agree on many of the
elements that can make your efforts wildly successful or totally futile. In
figuring out how to best woo a lady, consider avoiding the following
turn-off's, as well as incorporating the following turn-on's. Furthermore,
consider ways to maintain behaviors well beyond the preliminary stages of
dating, as these factors will also help to maintain passion and intrigue in
each other.
Women's Top Ten Turn-Offs
Poor hygiene
Bad breath
Rude to staff
Poor manners
Complains a lot
Boring
Poor listener
Puts others down
Cheap skate
Someone who's self-absorbed
Women's Top Ten Turn-Ons
Passionate
Romantic
Good listener
Good manners
Shows good eye contact
Easy going
Smiles a lot
Attentive to her needs
Well-groomed
Confident
Major TURN ONs – in
Fetiphoria's own words!
Honest
Intelligence
Good hyegiene
Major TURN OFFs – in
Fetiphoria's own words!
Fidgeting
Lieing
Nail Biting
Step 3: How to Sexually
Seduce Me! Know My Sexual Personality
One's overall sexual
personality reflects two core meta-traits that experts traditionally refer to
as Alpha and Beta. With respect to sexual motivations, Alpha concerns intimacy
and affiliation, and Beta concerns power or dominance. This means that those
scoring high on Alpha typically approach sex as a means to an end – such as
strengthening an attachment or deepening intimacy with a lover. Those scoring
high on Beta tend to regard sex as its own reward.
Fetiphoria scored high on
Alpha and high on Beta, so we call this profile a "Serpent." These
sensation-seekers are not necessarily sex fiends, but they can be somewhat
open-minded and exploratory when it comes to sexual expression. For them, sex
is often a transcendent experience through which they feel unparalleled
pleasure that comes from all of the sensations of an intense emotional and
physical connection with a partner, with many uncoiling their innermost sexual
energy for a cosmic sexual experience. The dominance this type sometimes
portrays in the bedroom is one meant for mutual pleasuring – for the greater
good of the relationship and connection – than one of selfish gratification.
Sexual pleasuring is a celebration of the relationship and amongst a union's
highest priorities.
In getting to know a
"Serpent" better, Plenty of Fish would like to suggest some
customized, probing inquiries to help you:
"When it comes to 'Tantric sex', what
thoughts come to mind?'"
"Is sex best planned or left
completely spontaneous…and why?"
"How would you describe the difference
between 'sex' and 'making love', if anything?"
"Are there any sexual activities that
couples should not try?"
"Should a partner have sex even when they're
not in the mood?"
"How would you describe the ultimate
sensual sexual experience for you?"
Know My Romantic Fantasies
Plenty of Fish is about to
reveal the latest in research on romantic fantasies – what men and women think
about when they're seducing themselves or a lover. Before we delve into those
results, however, it's interesting to note that, in general, research has found
that the differences between the sexes when it comes to sexual fantasies aren't
too great. Both sexes enjoy fantasies involving threesomes (whatever the
combination), using a video camera, current partners, reliving past experiences
and oral sex. Naturally, however, research has also found gender differences
when it comes to fantasy… Women's fantasies are heavier on new lovemaking
positions, sex in exotic places, being "forced "to have sex, bondage,
being found absolutely irresistible, sex with a new lover and doing something
"wicked." Male fantasies tend to focus on sensual, nongenital (no
penis or vagina) lovemaking, having sex in general, group sex, voyeurism and
being aggressive or dominant during sex. That said, here's what the Plenty of
Fish Seduction Survey
discovered about the realm of fantasies…
…On to the details
An important part of
seducing many women is playing upon their senses and imagination in a way that
sets the right emotional mood for physical intimacy and releasing inhibitions.
The "right" mood varies, in general, between men and women, as well
as amongst individuals. New research sponsored by Plenty of Fish has further
discovered some predictable trends for women.
Generally speaking, most
women like scripts – a sexy story line, with a good setting, context, and
feelings, to get carried away with. Romantic fantasies in which they surrender
themselves in a tender way to a mysterious lover or authority figure
(firefighter/victim; doctor/nurse or passionate strangers who meet through
destiny) are quite popular. On top of that, a number of women also like
passionate fantasies that deal with risk-taking and/or impulsive behaviors,
such as being with some sort of "bad boy" (think rock star, corrupt
police officer, Robin Hood or Julius Caesar). Finally, on top of these two
previous groups of themes, there are some women who really go for themes of
dominance, forbidden relationships, or force (though this is not to say that
they desire actually being violated in real life). Examples of this include
principal/student, rich bitch/hired help, being a porn star, or being abducted
or kidnapped. They love fantasies that involve their own attractiveness to a
partner, the emotional context for such lust, and her role as her lover's
"toy."
Bottom line: Overall,
women's romantic fantasies are more contextual, emotional, intimate and passive
in nature, involving a great degree of emotional arousal, This is a reflection
of the degree of emotional connection that she needs with a lover. So in wooing
women who identify with these fantasy descriptors, men should make efforts to
stimulate her beyond the physical, wooing her by setting the stage, creating a
sensual space and taking the lead on co-creating a storyline that she will be
replaying in her head and private moments for weeks to come. Furthermore, men
need to realize the importance of patience in realizing her fantasies. For some
women, romance and passion build gradually with time and trust. So don't try to
force or artificially accelerate the process to a pace that you may prefer.
Next, Plenty of Fish
presents some customized, probing questions to help you explore romantic fantasies
with Fetiphoria:
"Should a person ever reveal all of
their sexual fantasies? Why or why not?"
"Have you ever acted out a romantic
fantasy… and was it all that you expected?"
"What stimulates the fantasies that
run through your head? Books? Movies?..."
"How do you know when it's safe to
confess your romantic fantasies with a partner?"
"What are some of the benefits of
fantasy for an individual and a relationship?"
"What are your thoughts around the
claimed differences between males and females when it comes to sexual and
romantic fantasies?"
Food for Thought! Plenty of
Fish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies related to "Romantic
Fantasies" that the assessment identified in Fetiphoria.
Romantic fantasies I find
especially unappealing
Therapist & patient
Rich bitch & poor hired
help
A rock star or the hot
groupie
Romantic fantasies I find
especially appealing
Being rescued
Tenderness you ARE the ONLY
one
Romeo and Juliet
Romantic fantasies I might
discover I like with the right person
Abduction/kidnapping
Cruel brothel boss & sex
worker
A porn star
Know My Fantasy Locations
Another critical part of
seduction is the physical setting. The "right" fantasy location can
really help set the mood and make for an incredible and memorable intimate
experience. The "right" fantasy setting varies between men and women,
as well as among individuals. However, Plenty of Fish's new research also
reveals predictable trends about what women prefer. Generally speaking, most
women like fantasy locations that are private, idealistic and exotic. These
settings show a remarkable range, such as under a moonlit sky, near or in
waterfalls, secluded picnics, hot tubs, bed & breakfasts, castles, forests,
lighthouses, and famous historical landmarks (e.g., Eiffel Tower). On that top
of this, a number of women also like fantasy locations that really kick
adrenaline into high gear. These are locations that speak to the
sensation-seeking side of women – camping, fields, amusement parks, backstage
at concerts or Hollywood movie sets, and even images of space and the heavens.
Finally, on top of these two previous groups of themes, there are some women
who really go for themes of forbidden locations that tap into the idea of lost
innocence. Examples of this include parked cars, office romances, childhood
playgrounds, haunted houses or high schools.
Bottom line: When it comes
to fantasy settings, women tend to be most concerned with privacy and discretion
with a lover – the sharing of intimate or exhilarating experiences that make
for great secrets and memories. Men should therefore remember that a woman
appreciates settings that help show her and make her feel that she's the sole
object of his attention and desire and that acts of intimacy are special.
Next, Plenty of Fish
presents some customized, probing questions to help you explore romantic
fantasies with Fetiphoria:
"Should couples take photographs
(intimate or not) when they're living out a romantic fantasy in an exotic
place… or should they forego cameras, only taking away memories of the
experience so that the details remain forever private between the two
lovers?"
"Do you think a couple can effectively
recreate an exotic, fantasy setting in the privacy of their own home, or do you
think it's just not the same as going to that actual setting? Can some be done
more easily than others?"
"You're sharing a moment of passion in
a secluded, romantic spot when all of a sudden a stranger appears! Would you
tend to find that situation horrifying, hilarious, embarrassing or a complete
turn-on?"
Food for Thought! Plenty of
Fish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies related to "Fantasy
Locations" that the assessment identified in Fetiphoria.
Fantasy locations I find
especially unappealing
Farm/ Barn
Dancing club
Classroom
Fantasy locations I find
especially appealing
Beach
Abduction/kidnapping
Famous historical
landmark(s), e.g., Eiffel Tower, Rome Coliseum, Great Wall of China, Pyramids
Fantasy locations I might
discover I like with the right person
Concert
Scented candles
Fountain
Know My Sexual Fantasies
Ultimately, seduction leads
to physical intimacy. And just as people prefer certain moods and settings, men
and women also prefer particular types of sex play. The new research sponsored
by Plenty of Fish discovered some interesting trends for what forms of sex play
appeal most to women. Generally speaking, most women like sensual activities
that allow them to play with their partners. This includes a strip tease, role
play, tickling and light biting, and exhibitionism (getting intimate in public
settings). On that top of this, a number of women also like sex play that gets
a little on the wild side – things like getting or playing with body piercings,
bondage with some spanking or hot wax for added stimulation, wearing stockings
and hosiery, and posing for nude photographs or videotaping intimate
encounters.
Finally, on top of these two
previous groups of activities, there are some women who really go for more
uninhibited or hardcore types of play. Examples of this include exotic shoes or
boots, using rubber or latex, pinching, harder spankings and other types of
general B&D/S&M play.
Bottom line: When it comes
to sexual preferences, women tend to like sex play that fosters intimacy and a
sense of "surrender" to a partner. They also like to know that they
are deeply desired. Therefore, a man should give his undivided attention to his
partner and ensure an atmosphere of mutual trust so his partner feels free and
safe to be uninhibited sexually. He should also explore different types of
touch with her, tapping into all of her senses, and respectfully testing her
boundaries as far as sexual enhancements and expression go.
Next, Plenty of Fish
presents some customized, probing questions to help you explore sexual
fantasies with Fetiphoria:
"What are your most favorite types of
foreplay…and why?"
"Have most of your sexual preferences come from your own
imagination, from sex play with a previous partner, or have they been inspired
from what you've seen in books, TV, or the movies?"
"Where are your top three hot spots
and how do you like them stimulated?"
Food for Thought! Plenty of
Fish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies related to "Sexual
Fantasies" that the assessment identified in Fetiphoria.
Sex play I find especially
unappealing
Spandex fetishism
Body piercing
Pinching
Sex play I find especially
Appealing
Spanking/ paddling
Tickling
Biting/ hickeys
Sex play I might discover I
like with the right person
General S&M (sadism
& masochism)
General B&D (bondage
& discipline)
Voyeurism - others (watching
others having sex)
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